| Many Mothers Routinely “Cut” at Delivery |
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| Sunday, 25 December 2011 00:33 |
THERE is a dreaded procedure routinely performed on expectant mothers that makes most cringe and fear their birth experience. It’s called an episiotomy. An episiotomy is a procedure in which a surgical incision is made in the tissues of the birth canal just before the baby’s head is born. This cut causes trauma to the woman’s genital region, requires stitches after the birth, and is a matter that is considered a violation of the woman’s human rights amongst natural childbirth advocates.
The World Health Organization (WHO) states, “Limiting the use of episiotomy to strict indications has a number of benefits: less…trauma, less need for suturing and fewer complications…. Routine episiotomy, or liberal use of episiotomy, is unfortunately very common, both in under-resourced settings and in some developed countries….There are…strong reasons to counteract the overuse of episiotomy…”* Many Obstetrics Behind the Times This medical intervention has been done routinely for decades. However, those who stay current with scientific research have all but abandoned the procedure. Sadly, I find it lingering on as a matter of routine in the practice of several of the local obstetricians I have personally spoken to. I also receive similar feedback from many of my clients who have asked me about the procedure after discussing it with their doctors in both Saudi Arabia and in Egypt. East vs. West Although too many women are still being cut in the West, there is growing consumerism in this regard, as women have become educated on the subject over the past years. These women seek out doctors who do not cut as a matter of routine and often refuse the procedure all together. However, in Arabia I find that most doctors still cut routinely and the local women simply accept the cut as a matter of fact, barely giving the issue a second thought. I recently discovered a blatant illustration of the differing practice of the West and Middle East in this regards. First, while watching a Canadian midwifery training video, the instructor was displaying the many instruments that may be used during birth. When she came to episiotomy scissors she made a side comment, “I know nobody does episiotomies anymore, but we have to carry them in case of an emergency.” I was almost in tears as I heard her make that statement so casually. Her words rang through my head as I recalled my interactions with obstetricians in Egypt and Saudi Arabia. I practically cried as I thought to myself, “If only that were the case over here!” My memory of conversations on this side of the globe include: “Aisha, truly, you are special to have never had an episiotomy…” counseled my obstetrician in Egypt after discussing the matter during one of my prenatal visits. “One hundred percent of first-time mothers must have an episiotomy,” confidently declared a doctor in a Saudi clinic. “My doctor told me Arab women have less collagen in their skin than Western women and therefore always need to be cut,” lamented one of my childbirth students in Riyadh. (I would have liked to ask the doctor for the scientific proof to back that up!) This is not to say that ALL doctors in the West are good nor all in the East are bad. You can find both categories everywhere. But I think it’s accurate to say that more doctors routinely cut in Arabia than in the West. But I haven’t lost faith. I was pleased to find an article, Hospital Slashes Episiotomy Rate, which provides a ray of hope in the Middle East. I also know of at least one local midwife who doesn’t cut as a mater of routine, masha’Allah. Ignoring the Evidence I don’t even want to think of how many women around the globe are cut during their births as a matter of course. From my perspective this is a tragedy, as there is plenty of scientific evidence that indicates that the intervention should be used sparingly, not routinely. I recently asked a local midwife about her experience with Arab women, as my student’s doctor commenting about there being a difference in skin texture had me perplexed. She told me that in her fifteen years as a delivering midwife in Saudi, she has not seen any difference between the anatomies of Arab women as compared to Westerners. She said the need for episiotomy should come down to individual assessment of the elasticity of the tissues, the size of the baby, how much physical preparation the mother has done in this regards for her birth, the control with which she is pushing, and the caregivers skill at assisting the woman to birth without significant tearing of the tissues. In her personal practice, she has found no difference based on ethnicity or race alone. In fact, I feel that any doctor who says that 100% (or any other high number) of women of any category (first-time mothers, Arabs, etc.) need an episiotomy is simply treating patients as a matter of protocol. It’s quite obvious that such a doctor is not treating each woman as an individual, nor assessing the situation on an individual basis. Personally, I’d run in the opposite direction from such a doctor, as I feel that birth should be cared for on an individual basis and not as a matter of routine. My Perspective Cut vs. Tear When I teach childbirth classes I give women specific postures and exercises to increase the elasticity of the subject tissues and I discuss with them the risk of tearing if an episiotomy is refused. The way I see it is that an episiotomy is a guaranteed trauma with a need for stitches and painful healing after birth; whereas taking the risk of tearing gives a possibility of no trauma at all, or slightly mild trauma, which may not even need stitching (minor skin laceration). Even if the woman tears significantly, it’s usually not any worse than had she been cut. Of course doctors may argue that a straight cut is easier to repair, but frankly I am more concerned with the woman’s wellbeing than I am ensuring that the doctor has an easy job! Another common retort by obstetricians is that a cut will control the direction of the tear. Again, without a cut, she may not tear at all and with a cut there is a weakening of the tissue integrity that often leads to a tear that extends the incision even further. Additionally, I have a personal friend who confided that she had an episiotomy with her first birth and she refused one for her second. With the second birth she encountered the dreaded upwards tear. She told me that the pain from the tear, even though it was in a much more sensitive area, was far less than the previous episiotomy. She had no regrets about refusing the procedure for her second birth. Ways to Prepare So this leaves me to counsel you on what you can do to avoid being cut during birth. The American Academy of Husband-Coached Childbirth® publishes a paper titled “What can I do to avoid an episiotomy?” It includes several tips for expectant mothers. I’ve listed them here, along with a few of my own:
Notes of Exception
It is important to note that in cases of emergency (such as a baby in severe distress or in need of assisted delivery with vacuum extraction or forceps) an episiotomy may be warranted. But such instances are rare. Also, for women who have undergone female circumcision, their case should be evaluated carefully to determine if the procedure significantly altered the opening of the birth canal or the available elasticity of the tissues. Additionally, for those women that opt for epidural or other medicinal pain relief, they should consider the fact that their inability to feel the pushing phase of their birth may result in increased incidence of severe tearing as they are not able to assess how strongly to push, nor can they sense the moment the head passes through the opening to stop their pushing and await rotation of the shoulders. They are therefore more likely to inadvertently injure themselves with uncontrolled pushing. Conclusion
In the end, your doctor has the most power over whether or not you will be cut. Your job includes:
In the end, you are the one who has to live with the consequences of your birth experience. Whether or not you have an episiotomy is not the end of the world, but it will surely make a difference in how you feel about your birth as well as how much pain and healing you’ll need to do afterwards. Reference: *Liljestrand J. Episiotomy for vaginal birth: RHL commentary (last revised: 20 October 2003). The WHO Reproductive Health Library; Geneva: World Health Organization. ©2011 aisha_alhajjar@yahoo.com, All Rights Reserved (All writings are the original work of Aisha Al Hajjar and are based on her personal research, experiences, and opinions; they do not necessarily reflect the views of any organization or this publication.) |


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Comments
On a personal level, I hardly had any knowledge on this topic. It was always confusing and a bit scary to think that it was all random/fate/out of control when it came to a birth being natural or a c-section. I have learned so much masha Allah on what factors help and what don't; improper medical practices; and a lot more. Jazaakillah khair for educating all of us with such passion. The first thing that comes to mind when we hear of a birth is: was it natural or a c-section! LOL!
Motherhood has grown masha Allah. And I pray Allah preserves you and the Motherhood team and makes you all better.
May Allah reward you, forgive you, accept your work and grant you all a high station in Paradise for the service you are rendering. ameen!
I’m pleased to hear that men are reading and benefiting as well. I truly believe that men, as protectors of women, need to understand these topics in order to advocate for their wives in the medical model we must traverse in birth during this era.
I’m also honored that you’ve taken the time to comment about your personal growth in this regard. May Allah grant you a family that is pleasing to HIM and their father.
Jzk for your duas.
I, too, would like to acknowledge the wonderful contributions of my colleagues as well. Each one brings a unique perspective that we all can learn from, insha’Allah.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
And yes, it is about time that women stand up and say laboring is not about making it easier for the doctor, who is getting paid to do a service, but it is about making it easier and safer for the LABORING woman. Labor is work. No laboring woman should have to do anything just to make the doctor's job easier. If the doctor has to stand on his head to help the mom, so be it, lol. Isn't that why he is getting paid? lol.
I’ve often thought to start a club for women who have never had episiotomy, “even for their first birth,” just to take the list to these doctors who think I’m such an alien!
I like that, “If the doctor has to stand on his head to help the mom, so be it!”
Are you up to taking on next week’s article? :)
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Thank you for your tip regarding warm water. I hope that mothers head the advice and pray for better, less medically invasive births for all!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Masha’Allah, alf mabrook on your coming babe! May Allah grant you a gentle, easy birth and may all your children be blessed with maturity of years and be pleasing to Allah and their parents.
Maybe you should print this article for your doctor!
Like you, I’ve never been cut, nor had a single tear or stitch, by the grace of Allah, alhamduelalh. And that includes the first baby! I truly wish more women could say that.
Jzk for your duas, ya Ukhty. We really need all the prayers we can get as we continue to raise our voices in the name of human rights with regards to birth. This does not just apply here, but worldwide.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
2 births, no episiotomy here either, and inshaAllah never will have one. great article, and i love stacey's comments too.
Thank you for speaking out and sharing your “uncut” birth experiences. More women need to know that there are many of us out here who have come through birth intact.
May your comments help our sisters!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
the article is amazing.. Thank you
My pleasure! Thank you for reading. As you know, this was written, in part, for you. :)
May Allah bless you with an easy, “uncut” birth and a healthy baby who is pleasing to HIM and his/her parents.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I like the “outlaw” suggestion! Sadly, it’d never fly...there’s too much money behind medical obstetrical practice!
Besides that, it’s the doctor doing the cut who would get to decide when it’s “medically required” and more than likely there won’t be changes in their views about what qualifies as “required!"
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Thanks for this article. Every time I read the "cut" in a birth-related article, I cringe. Mostly because the first thing that comes to mind is the caesarean incision. After those two skin-cringing experiences, I had two natural births alhamdulillah. I had a slight tear during my first birth, and it wasn't traumatic (3 stitches,) and no tear in my 2nd natural birth alhamdulillah. That was with a much larger baby. I had learned from my first natural birth that I had been impatient and pushed too quickly. So during the second run, I learned to listen to my body and let it do the work alhamdulillah.
I never realised how terrible episiotomies were, even after those experiences, until a few friends discussed their experiences. I was mortified. In a weird way I thought my csections were less traumatic than being cut at the perineum subhanallah. Routine episiotomies seem to be high in first-timers in the hospital setting, and very rarely do you hear of a good experience. One of my friends was cut so bad they couldn't suture the wound properly, and she had to get it redone 6 weeks later. She said during her birth, the nurses were fighting over who could have a go "this time." She can't seem to conceive again and I wonder if it has something to do with deep-seated trauma from the birth.
I do hope women reclaim their power to birth with the least intervention possible. It's terrible to hear of traumatic stories but the trauma is very real. Inshaallah more mothers start asserting themselves, but like you said at the end of the day, somehoe hospital protocol holds more power than many mothers.
Thank you so much for reading and for your thought provoking comment! Your history of 2 natural births after 2 cesarean is an inspiration in itself!
I also feel very sad when I hear the trauma caused by episiotomies. I also know women who had to have repairs done twice! Tragic!
Most often it comes down to lack of preparation on mom’s part due to lack of education...it’s the doctor’s fail twice...1st in not educating her how to prepare for birth and 2nd in employing harmful routine practices!
What a key you found in tuning in to listen to your body! Nine tenths of birth comes down to that! Stop, clam down, tune in and listen! Instead we oftenget panic fed by the medical environment!
Thanks for helping raise awareness on this topic and natural birth in general!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I have had two all-natural births, and didn't have episiotomies for either. Alhamdulillah the conditions were right for me that I was able to obtain accurate information about this archaic and cruel practice. Let's make du'a things will start to change slowly, and women don't fall prey to this anymore.
Thank you for reading and commenting. I suppose it is almost {emphasis on almost] comical to hear “our ethnicity needs to be cut.” Tragically comical!
I am inclined to say, “It’s not the doctors fault...it’s how they were trained...” But then, there is plenty of research and no excuse for not thinking for yourself!
Ameen to your dua! However, I’d like to say quickly, rather than slowly!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Yes you are so right, the doctors are trained that way. And you are right again - there is plenty of research to show routine episiotomies are NOT required - even stipulated by the WHO and in most Interenatoniona l College of Obs and Gyn guidelines .. but STILL doctors don't heed this. I wonder why? Why isn't there a governing body to ensure these guidelines are adhered to??? What can we do sis??
I can only speculate, but consider the high pitched noises of mothers at the moment of birth. It’s pretty ear-pearcing and stressful to hear that sound. It’s natural and normal for mothers to call out like this at the peak of perineal pressure. But for those around her, it causes tension and a sense of urgency and panic. Doctors are simply reacting with the tools they’ve been given to “put her out of her misery” but getting it over quickly! (Whereas midwives are trained that this is “good” noise and we simply smile and nod and encourage her along, giving her “permission” to vocalize as need be to finish the job naturally).
Granted, that little scissor snip (which often extends to a much bigger tear) gets things over with almost immediately...but at what price? First, it guarantees a surgical charge on the patient’s bill (as episiotomy is considered a surgical procedure doctors are paid for...along with the subsequent stitching up); but more importantly and tragically, second, it guarantees a much more traumatic injury and painful healing time for the mother.
As for governing...who’s going to do the governing? Doctors are revered as the “experts” and all others cower to them as they haughtily tout the “medical need”...the system of self monitoring (doctors monitoring each other) simply doesn’t work. You really need to read “Born in the USA” by Dr. Marden Wagner...it’s available on Kindle application. This will explain a lot...coming from the “inside”...as he is a doctor himself.
In the meantime...we keep doing what we are doing, sharing our testimonials and raising our voices for those women who care to listen. There will probably always be those who are happily placated with medicinal dominance...but we can’t stop reaching out for those who want to know the truth. As birth truly is a trust and worship of Allah, sharing our God given insights regarding birth is a lot like Islamic dawa, Ukhty, we share the message and Allah guides whom HE wills.
Only through open communication, like Saudi Life provides through this column (may Allah reward them), and consumer pressure will the wheels of change begin to turn...albeit one woman, one birth, and insha’Allah, one care provider at a time! I pray that it will pick up speed and natural birth will run far ahead of intervention for the majority of mothers.
Thanks for sharing your sincere queries; it’s given me opportunity to think and share more insight for the benefit of all expectant mothers, alhamduelalh.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Wow, 10 pounds! (That’s 4.5 k for my metric friends.) What a testimony!
I love your comment, “Women’s bodies are made to stretch, give birth, and go back.” Well said!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Thanks for sharing. Tears can happen, even very bad ones...but I guarantee a cut will be “bad”!
It is good to know that even with a 2nd degree tear you still prefer that over being cut! That’s a huge testimonial.
That said, there are times when a cut would be better than a tear...but they are very rare if the mother and doctor work with her body...sadly that is also very rare!
Insha’Allah, no episiotomies for most women...that’s a good mantra!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
If doctors wanted to 'help' women, they should be doing their best to educate women how to avoid tears, just like what you listed in your article, instead of volunteering to cut an artificial tear.
You hit it on the head! Education is so key! It is sadly lacking.
I suppose it’s lack of time and lack of interest in being a teacher on the doctors' part...it’s time we rally behind childbirth educators and make classes for birth among the list of “must dos” when a woman realizes she’s pregnant!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
No episiotomy for me either... It was my 3rd baby, but like a first as my previous two were c-sections...so this was a first vaginal delivery. I had some natural tearing though.. Got some stitches to take care of it. I know so many many ObGyns in Pakistan who do routine cuts ... My question is, is there ever a case where there is a need for an episiotomy? I hear from some women that their doctor "had" to the episiotomy in an emergency to get the baby out bc the baby was in fetal distress? Is it really that? Or is it just that doctors like to cut... If not a C-section, then be it an Episiotomy!
Thanks for sharing your testimonial. I’m sure that your tear with a few stitches was far less traumatic than had you been cut!
To answer your question, yes, absolutely, episiotomy is a medical procedure that has it’s place. Unfortunately, many of the protocols prior to the moment of birth put women at more risk of severe tearing (epidural, laying flat on the back for delivery, use of stirrups, etc.). We don’t realize that when we submit to these things we are impairing our ability to birth with our perineum intact.
That being said, most doctors do not deal with truly natural birth mamas, so obviously what they see as “normal” is really “abnormal that has become the majority.” The majority of woman being subjected to medical intervention does not mean that it is normal! It just means that our birthing culture is sadly messed up!
May Allah guide us all...HIS plan for birth is not flawed! Trust Allah, trust birth!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
For my readers who don’t know Sandi, she is a midwife, currently working in China.
2500 births with 9 episiotomies is a rate of less than half a percent! Now that is a birth attendant I would trust!
Way to go! Thank you for your dedication to birthing mamas!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I wish homebirth was an option for mothers in Saudi! Count your blessings that there are care providers and legal options for homebirth where you reside!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Keep on writing and educating! :)
I will keep on writing and education so long as Allah wills!
One voice makes a ripple in the pond...but I need the support of many to make waves!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Quoting Aisha Al Hajjar, AMANI:
Assalam Alaikum Sister Aisha!
Masha'Allah Its such an informative piece of article & so are the comments! But then, so are all your articles (Am just in the learning process). Can't theank u enough..Jazaki Allahu Kahir tonzzz!
I remember when i first heard about the cuts in a Human Development & Family Studies Class when in college, i was taken aback. But then i thought it's done only when the necessities arise. But then again, i heard the conversations about stitches & cuts amongst new-moms & friendz who delivered for the first time in such a matter-of-fact way as it was normal; that left me confused. "Surely something was not right here!", said my instincts. Why would The natural method Allah Blessed us with, need interceding (except for exceptions)? How did birth happen in the yester-years then? Science is just discovering things now; but has Perfected it wayy looong back Alhamdulillah! But then the problem is that no one's there to answer those questions. I realized that the new moms (or the old ones too for that matter)didn't know much more than I did! Well' they had practical experience, yes; but no one's so much aware of the Do's & Dont's The natural way! And the problem is that the doc's are considered right; while so many of them are commercialized & are so impatient nowadays that they don't even educate their patients; be it about being a mom or a patient with a health problem!
...And Here Iam ; so glaaad ; that you're there answering those questions Alhamdulillah! Masha'Allah! (But still hv got lots to learn & understand). But Insha'Allah will make it a point to send these articles to friends of mine who are expecting Insha'Allah! Awareness is necessary! Hope Allah makes it easy to stand-up for whats right! Insha'Allah! (Imagine having to do this for something as basic & natural as birth!)..And Also Blesses us with resources, docs & mid-wives likewise! And with healthy, positive, natural births! Insha'Allah! Ameen!
May Allah Shower His Mightiest Blessings on u & ur family, to u Faraz Bhaiya for having started this & ur family, and all the writers who write, people who stand for cause and their families; for the sake of Allah, and Guide us all on, the whole of Ummah on His Path & Grant us Jannat-ul-Firdous! Insha'Allah! Ameen!
Oops.. I'm sorry. I've written too long!..But i guess I'm overwhelmed!
P.S. As for me; I secretly wish u could travel & be available to others in other parts of the world; like me here in India. When my turn will come when Allah wills, I'd be hoping Insha'Allah to turn to you!!! (if u'd be so kind!)*wink*
Jazaki Allahu Khair tonzz again!
With lots of love, regards & respect'
Nida.
I’m pleasantly surprised to hear about your Saudi doctor! I bet lots of other Jeddah mamas would like to know who that is! Could you ask her to read this article and make a comment of her own? I’d love to hear from her directly, insha’Allah.
The rays of hope shine through when I hear of doctors like yours. We need to find them and support them!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Thank you for sharing! Also good for others to know that 2 of your births were in the States, 1 in Egypt, and 2 in Saudi.
One testimonial at a time, I pray we are educating mothers and they will be the force of change for care providers to reconsider routines!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Thanks for this great article.
I'm so sad to hear how liberally episiotomy is used in some parts of the world. Do people think our Creator made us to grow the baby without any outside assistance necessary but in order to get it out our body is not capable in it's normal form?
I've given birth three times with no drugs and no episiotomies, alhamdulillah. The first time I had a small tear, but it wasn't even enough to need stitches.
People talk about tears like they are so scary, but even if you don't tear you will feel like you did (temporarily). An episiotomy, by definition, is a second-degree tear. Women are more likely to have severe tears if the a) have an episiotomy, b) are pushing while laying flat on their back (which makes no sense to do anyway), or c) both.
Thank you and may Allah reward you, for raising awareness on this issue.
assalamu alaikum
Thank you for reading and commenting. Great question to ponder, "Do people think our Creator made us to grow the baby without any outside assistance necessary but in order to get it out our body is not capable in it's normal form?”
Also, thank you for sharing your own testimonial. Women really need to hear our stories! Doctors, too, need to hear it in order to realize that it’s not an isolated case that births without the “cut!”
Thanks for highlighting STAY OFF YOUR BACK (which also means off epidural so you have control of your body).
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Thank you for sharing. What a blessing that you had a midwife that gave you the opportunity to discuss your birth plans and who obviously respected what you wanted. May Allah reward her!
I appreciate you sharing your testimonial and tips for other mamas to see!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I look forward to any further comments you may have after reading in full, insha’Allah.
For my readers, Roa is a Saudi women who is studying midwifery in the UK. I can’t wait until she comes back home to practice midwifery, insha'Allah! What a blessing she will be to the women here! May Allah reward her for her dedication to her sisters.
Interesting to hear about your thesis and research into episiotomies. Another friend of mine was recently telling me that the government hospitals in Saudi are much better at minimal interventions than the private, as your study found, masha'Allah. Unfortunately, much of the society views government hospitals as the low-class facility for the poor. Not to mention that non-Saudis cannot use them.
That leaves all expats (as well as Saudis who feel they are “above” the government provided care) in the hands of private providers. Unfortunately, there seems to be a mentality that “private” is “better” and the staff there often feel that they are being paid so they better “do” something...which leads to the many interventions. Of course, this is my personal opinon and it is a generalization and simplification of the situation, not based on any research or hard evidence.
I’m with you and will make your hope into a prayer for change in worldwide obstetric practices to follow the restrictive use of episiotomy, ameen!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Birth is a business to some. I pray that I always remain humble and in service to my sisters for the sake of Allah.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
It is DEFINITELY possible to have your babies without an episiotomy!! I had both of my kids without epis or tears, and they both had stuck shoulders. My second baby was even 4.5 kilos and was born over an intact perineum!! good luck to all moms who want to avoid being cut!!!!
Stuck shoulders are often a reason given as medical need for episiotomy. It’s great to hear that you managed with both babies, especially such a big one without being cut! That is a huge testimony!
Thanks for your well wishes for the mothers who have yet to experience birth. Your kind words and personal experiences will be of comfort to many!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I would add a thirteenth tip for avoiding the "cut".
And that is, Do not be induced! When a woman goes into labor spontaneously her hormones line up correctly and upon the imminent birth of he babe, a stretching hormone floods her body which enables her to quickly expand, some call this the "ring of fire". It is natures way of enabling even the smallest mother to stretch for the baby.
Also, one of the big lies around episiotomy is that being stitched up will restore the vagina to virginal status. Some doctors have been taught to tell patients that they will be honeymoon fresh for their husbands by tightly stitching a mother up after the cut.
I am going to share an insight that has been whispered from Mother to Mother in the Unassisted Childbirth Community for decades. When a Mother gives birth autonomously and privately the incidence of orgasmic birth goes up with the birth of each babe. And many Mothers have confided to me that each birth results in a natural tightening and renewing of the vagina which in turn makes sex more pleasurable for the woman. I am friends with many who are into Family Birth and a special blessing of sexual renewal is available to those couples who are faithful to each other and embrace a high standard of sexual fidelity.
It makes sense to me that our Heavenly Father would want to bless Families with this tremendous gift of sexual renewal and love as each child is welcomed into the home, with an increase of capacity for joy for both the mother and the father.
I cringe when thinking of my grandmothers surgical vaginal births. My Mother also had episiotomies with all 8 of her babes. I have had five children, one an eleven pound boy with a fifteen inch head, and not even a skid mark, and no episiotomies with any of them. I credit supportive doctors, my own education with nutrition and exercise, birthing upright, and a deep desire not to be cut with my perineal integrity.
I also have experienced the sexual renewal after my two home births.
I pray for the day when no Mother is needlessly cut during birth. I predict an outpouring of love and increase of joy in each home where these principles of sexual integrity are taught and practiced.
Jenny Hatch
For those who don’t know, Jenny is a well-known advocate in America for unassisted birth (homebirth without a doctor or midwife to assist). She has a monthly magazine as well as talk radio show about the subject.
I really appreciate your extra tip about induction. That is just one example of how the medical model steps in and alters the birth process to the point that we don’t even know what birth really looks like in its natural state anymore.
As for the stitching and “virginal status.” I’m glad you brought this up. The “husband’s knot,” as it was called in the 60’s and 70’s back in the States, was a common practice of stitching up the episiotomy with intention to make the vaginal opening even tighter than it was previously with the added “bonus” of tighter tissues, which were a promise of better sexual pleasure for the husband. This practice has pretty much been abandoned Stateside, but is still common here in Saudi (and Egypt). Sadly, the reality is that this “extra” stitching for tightness often results in discomfort and pain for the women during intercourse. This may leave her “tighter than a virgin” but it also leaves her dreading her relations with her husband, and thus often pushing him away to avoid it. What pleasure is there when the mother has pain and the father can’t even get close enough to her to enjoy her? Obviously this is NOT a recipe for better sexual pleasure or closer marital relationships!
My students have often expressed concerns about their sexual relationships after birth. Many falling prey to the tales of extra stitching resulting in better sex. The reality is, as Jenny discusses in her comment, that there can be a renewal in this regards, with heightened closeness in the marriage after birth. I also counsel my mamas to be diligent with their exercises to keep tissues firm and healthy (http://saudilife.net/motherhood/10457-lifelong-pregnancy-exercise-for-women-and-men). This will do more for their marital relationship than any amount of extra stitching!
As for orgasmic birth, I can’t say that I’ve personally reached such a plateau, but it sure is intriguing!
Your testimony of uncut births, especially the 11 pound (5 kilo) baby with 15 inch (38 cm) head is huge! (No pun intended.) I agree with your credits, "I credit supportive doctors, my own education with nutrition and exercise, birthing upright, and a deep desire not to be cut with my perineal integrity.”
I share your prayer and will continue to raise issues too little shared or passed down, for as long as Allah blesses me to do so!
Thanks again for your thought provoking comment and raising issues that are most often not expressed!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
For my readers, a CNM is a midwife who came into midwifery after being a nurse for a while first, where as a CPM or DEM enter directly into the field of midwifery without first practicing as a nurse (DEM is the route I am taking, by the way).
The general thought is that CNM’s would be more intervening and function more on a medical model than a CPM or DEM who typically would have more trust in birth and birthing women and less on interventions. Of course, this is a vague generalization and just as it isn’t fair to say “all doctors” routinely cut or practice outside of evidence, it isn’t fair to say “all CNMs or CPMs or DEMs” practice the opposite.
At the end of the day...do your job as consumers and find the right care provider for you...regardless of the combination of letters after their name!
Great points to bring up, Sandra, thank you!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I pray you have full healing from your injury and everything that’s been effected is renewed!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
For my readers, Dayle is a doula and midwifery student in Jeddah. She is a great support of birthing women and we are blessed to have her in Saudi!
Your midwife’s record is such powerful testimony! One episiotomy out of 1000 births is a 0.1% rate! I tend to agree with her that it is NEVER medically necessary....UNTIL the chain of intervention starts. Once the door to intervention is opened...the road to episiotomy (or cesarean) is quickly traveled, unfortunately. Of course, women aren’t told, “When you take the epidural, or lay on your back strapped to IVs and monitors, or put your legs in stirrups you have increased the likelihood for involving scissors or scalpels into your birth.”
Thanks again for your comment. It’s not only a testimony but a reminder that women walk the path to episiotomy (and a lot more) by not preparing for birth and not confidently approaching it with determination for non-medicated, natural birth (unless there are true complications).
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I appreciate your extra tips as well as testimony about uncut birth!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
believe me take it all or leave it
episeotpmy is not a routine in first time mama if women did the tips for how to avoid episeotomy coz this made a big difference in their tissue that what I found in my practice a women who eat well did kegel massage not lying on back for birth, control her push massage her perineum.... most of them will not need episiotomy.
if women have weak perineum tough skin cant squat cant push choose anesthesia epsiotomy is a mast
so take it all or leave it
also from my practice with first time mama with no episiotomy but with small tear really tear is less painful or not painful at all heals better the explanation is that tear run between cells and episeotomy cut the cells
for mid line episiotomy it is better for healing not for repair and less painful and need experience but medio-lateral one is the most routinely done this cut the ms and easier for repair
For my readers, this testimony is monumental! Dr. Hanaa is an obstetrician in Egypt who had been following her training and predecessors in routine use of episiotomy.
She has since turned to applying research based evidence in her practice and done away with this barbaric practice unless she truly deems it medically necessary. May Allah reward her for her diligence in treating her patients with respect, dignity, and trust of Allah’s design of their bodies to birth naturally.
Her story of obstetrical transformation can be read in Spreading the Miracle of Natural Birth at (http://saudilife.net/motherhood/7332-spreading-the-miracle-of-natural-birth).
As for her comment, I agree with her...in terms of “medical need” for the episiotomy, it all starts with the woman. If she isn’t prepared, has unhealthy tissues due to poor diet and lack of exercise, is physically unfit to the point she can’t even sit cross-legged on the floor or squat, has no stamina to push, or insists (or accepts) anesthesia...her “need” for episiotomy greatly increases. Sadly, few doctors reach Dr. Hanaa’s caliber of educating and preparing women to avoid being in this situation at the time of birth. May Allah reward her for all her work in this regards.
I appreciate her technical explanation of tears being less painful and healing better due to natural tears running between cells, whereas episiotomy cuts through them. I’m adding this to my repertoire of explanations for my classes about tears vs cuts! Great insight from a doctor; I love it!
The discussion about the types of episiotomy cuts made, mid-line (straight down) or medio-lateral (off to the side) is also interesting and revealing (coming form an obstetrician). Medio-lateral is done more often as there is always risk of the tear extending and doctors fear a mid-line may tear clear through to the anus (ouch!)...plus, as she mentions, the “ever important” easier job for the doctor superseding what is better healing and less painful for the mother...and you all know how I feel about that (if not read the article and reply to Stacey’s comments above, again!).
Thanks so much, Dr. Hanaa, for sharing your perspective. It’s so important for mothers to hear it straight from someone in the medical field! Your support of women and natural birth is a wonderful ray of hope for women and I pray lots of reward for you in this life and the next!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
All praise to God, I had two natural, out-of-hospital births with midwives in the US. I did tear both times and had stitches (I think 2 or 3 for the first birth and 1 or 2 for the second). I was sore for about a week each time, but nothing abnormal. I can't imagine how it would have felt to have my stretching tissues cut in the middle of labor - what a violation of the natural order of things.
Now I live in Egypt, and this issue will definitely be a topic of discussion between myself and any doctor I interview for the job of being present at my labor!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I recently had a student of petite stature and her husband made the same comment about being told that she would not be able to birth naturally due to her height. She’s not a midget, she’s just petite, like you, masha’Allah.
I really appreciate you bringing this into light and love your comment, "Seriously, would the Creator of the universe and all that is in it create some categories of people that are inherently incapable of having natural births? What would they have done before the era of episiotomy scissors?!” What a wonderful reminder of Allah’s perfect creation and of birth as a worship in trust of Allah!
I also second your opinion about episiotomies, "a violation of the natural order of things. “ As I stated in the opening of my article, “...[episiotomy] is considered a violation of the woman’s human rights amongst natural childbirth advocates.”
What city are you in? If Alexandria, maybe you can consult with Dr. Hanaa, who commented just before you!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Best regards,
I wish all obstetric care providers were trained as such! It’s tragic that our doctors are not trained to trust birth more and intervene less. What a safer world this would be!
As a midwife, you know the importance of supporting what’s natural and normal while recognizing what’s not. You know when to intervene or transfer care...I just wish doctors were required to spend some time working UNDER midwives during their training and residency to instill the trust and wisdom that they employ in birth. If only...
Thank you for your well wishes. I’ll second that as a prayer for birth practices worldwide!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Great article. It's just so depressing to hear of doctors who believe they know best when evidence is so strong in the opposite direction - how ignorant they are.
Nicola
I also appreciate your feedback and support of the article itself.
As you point out, routine and protocol often supersede evidence and individual assessment and decisions, sadly. I agree with you...DEPRESSING!
Thanks again and count your blessing for the birth culture in the UK! I truly wish the birthing model in Saudi had followed the UK's precedence, rather than the State’s!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
You bring up a great topic, WATER BIRTH! One amazing thing about birth in water is the softening effect the water has on the tissues. I pray that we have this option available to us in Saudi soon!
I’m with you...once birthed unassisted at home and can’t imagine going back to hospital!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
My other two babes were anterior, and I had no cut, no tear for either of them.
Women's awareness of their bodies and trust in their support can make such a big difference when it comes to intervention in birth. Episiotomies aren't a necessity, they are a tool to be used in emergencies.
For my readers, anterior refers to the back of the baby’s head facing the mother’s abdomen during labor and is most common and “normal” presentation of the baby for birth. Whereas, posterior refers to the back of the baby’s head facing the mother’s spine during her labor, which can cause harder back labor and is often considered a tougher delivery (and reason given for the episiotomy...and in some cases even cesarean).
I love your testimony as it points out that just because things are not “perfectly normal," women still manage to birth naturally and uncut!
I agree with your statement about the importance of women being aware of their own bodies and having a trusting relationship with their care providers. This is where the midwifery model truly outshines the medical model of birth!
Your last statement is a truth that should be shouted from the rooftops! "Episiotomies aren't a necessity, they are a tool to be used in emergencies.”
Thanks again for your time and support!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
For my metric readers, 9 lbs is 4 kilos and 12 lbs is a whopping 5.4 kilos! “Nuchal hand” refers to the baby being born with it’s hand raised and therefore complicates the birth as the mother’s tissues have to stretch to accommodate not only the head, but also the hand that is coming out at the same time! Amazing testimony!
I also got tired of “arguing” with doctors about my determination to birth naturally and simply stayed out of the hospital for my last birth. Isn’t it sad when women have to fight for their birth and are pushed until they feel a need to avoid doctors, who are supposed to be there to help, in fear of the injuries they may cause?!? That is really telling evidence of the tragic state of our birthing culture today!
May Allah guide our care providers to trust in HIS perfect plan for birth and may each one have the wisdom to intervene only when true complications arise.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Feel free to check out my page on natural birth:
www.facebook.com/RadicalBirthing
I appreciate you sharing that you didn’t do any special, physical preparations for your births.
But you did do two of the most important things: 1-communicate with your care providers and 2-avoid epidural...which probably went hand-in-hand with staying off your back and out of stirrups too. All of this goes a long way in uncut birthing!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I am always pleased to meet like-minded advocates for natural birth!
I agree with your statements about squatting, water birth, patience and perineal massage!
The simple steps of getting women off epidural, off their back, and out of stirrups is a huge one towards better birthing and less injury!
Thanks again for sharing.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Also my mom gave birth during the time it was very common here in the west and her doctor told her he had to give her an episiotomy or she would tear "from end to end" she said that's fine let me then. She gave birth over an intact perineum and he began to change his policy from then on.
Thanks so much for sharing!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I pray many women heed that advice, as you accurately stated, it’s their life and livelihood at stake!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Wow, another 11 lbs (5 kilo) babe! Amazing to read of all the very big babies without being cut, masha’Allah! Wonderful testaments for my readers!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Also a great testimony to read of all the mothers who did tear and comment that it was just minor. Great evidence for the natural tear vs surgical cut!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Great testimonial for the mamas who do choose epidural!
I am so pleased to hear that your medical care providers and birth place encourage natural birthing and support the mother’s perineum, rather than scar it with scissors! What a ray of sunshine!
I agree with them, natural tears heal better than cuts! You truly were blessed to birth with them, both in terms of supporting the birth choices you made as well as following the evidence in not cutting!
I too wish everyone had the same opportunity! This is why good birth consumerism is so important early on...especially in areas where it’s hard to find the “gems”...early shopping will bring more likely odds of finding the right care provider!
Thanks again for sharing.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I’m glad you mention the peri-urethral tear (tearing “upwards”)...that’s what many of the doctors “threaten” women with...”if I don’t cut you will tear up!”
I prefer the reply...”if you don’t cut, I may not tear at all, and even if I do tear up, it may not be as bad as your cut will be!”
Thanks again.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I have had 3 hospital births and thankfully have never had any medical interventions at all.
Great to know that you had non-interventive hospital births!
In Saudi, hospital births are our only option so it’s refreshing to hear of good experiences!
Thanks again!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Especially good to hear of a vaginal twin birth! Many women are automatically routed for cesarean if they have multiples!
I’m wondering if the second twin was much easier than the first due to the first having “paved the way” so-to-speak? Love to hear your experience in that regard.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
I didn't have an episiotomy. I did tear severely with my first, but the episiotomy could not have prevented it, because it was internal. the outer skin did not tear at all. i attribute this to the fact that i was sent to the hospital for high blood pressure when i had planned a home birth, it just threw me off and stopped my labor completely because i did not want to be there. so i was stuck at 8cm for over 8 hours. i was exhausted and settled for the demerol. because of this, i wasn't aware of my position and just gave birth sitting on the edge of the bed. because of the effect of the drugs, i did not have the energy to squat or move into a more comfortable position.
when i had my 2nd, i had no issues, had a drug-free birth in a midwife clinic. i moved around right until the end. started out in the tub, it didn't feel right. then tried the birthing stool and pushed very hard, the midwives saw the cut happening. they suggested i try another position so i went on hands and knees on the bed (i had never seen this before but it just felt natural at the moment)and no further tearing happened. this time the tear healed within a few days and didn't hurt like the first time.
i am hoping next time i will not tear at all, or if i do, it will be minor like the 2nd time. i would not get an episiotomy, because i know that it would not have helped in my case.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It is good to point out that even with severe tearing, as you experienced, healing still happens, subhan’Allah; albeit slower than a minor injury, as you described with your second birth.
I also appreciate your testimony as it illustrates that a surgical cut would not have prevented the injury you incurred anyway. It also reassures nervous, expectant mothers when they read cases like yours and see, that even though you tore significantly with one baby, doesn’t mean that you regret not having allowed an episiotomy. Thank you for your candid account.
I find it additionally reassuring that your first injury did not equate to a repeat the second time around, alhmdulelah. Many mothers express concern during their second (or subsequent) pregnancy due to having torn or been cut in the previous birth(s). I can surely understand their concern in this regard, so it’s refreshing to hear your story.
Thanks so much for the details of how emotions, feelings, and movement can all affect outcomes! Such important points for mothers to consider!
Dua for a completely natural and injury free third birth for you! May all your children be healthy and pleasing to Allah and their parents.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Thank you for your article. You are voicing such important topics. It's because of women like you the world is beginning to listen.
I pray more and more women will realize that this procedure is simply BARBARIC in most cases!
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
You are right on in your conclusion sentence, "There are women all over the world this very moment, squatting in fields birthing their babies, its what we are made for!”
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
i would go the natural way again but i thnk i ould also listen to doctors andnot act like i knoew everything .
I wonder what position you delivered in and if you were controlled in your pushing. Not that it matters now...what’s done is done. But just curious if it could have been a matter of situation. Could also be nutrition or simply skin issue for you (extremely dry maybe).
At the end of the day, as your case shows, some women do tear quite badly. I don’t have a problem when a doctor or midwife feels an episiotomy is needed...so long as they do not do them as a matter of routine and truly assess the individual situation. This can be determined by their episiotomy rates...a low rate means that they are doing them sparingly based on true assessed need and not routinely.
How long ago was your birth? I pray you heal fully and are able to regain the integrity of the area.
Best regards,
-Aisha, Natural Mom
Anyway to cut the story i regret this decision and probably will a long time, it will take a few years for me to be back to normal and i'll be in treatment for a while longer . I don't think i want to have any more babies as i have enough to deal with. I blamed my doula too a bit inthe first for not educating me etc., but that's all past it is my fault alone. sometimes i think i should have just enjoyed the pregnancy not bothered about the birth , so what if there was a cur , so what if there were litle drugs i had picked a dr with a low c-sectionr ate and an even lower episiotomy rate.. i regret my lack of trust and going back i would have accepted a cut and even drugs, it's not the end of the world. again hindsight is 20/20 ( smile)
I don't think that there's any time "not bothering about the birth" is ever helpful. Learn all you can so you can make informed decisions and then take the path that your heart tells you is best for your family.
I delivered last thursday and thanks to God, hamdu le Allah, no episiotomy and no stitches just a tiny tear..
Thank u and God bless u
:)
alhamdulillah I delivered both of my kids in Saudi Arabia without getting an episiotomy. I told them I did not want to be cut as soon as I was in the delivery room. The first time they came with a needle, and I asked what they were doing, and the nurse said she was going to give me a shot so I wouldn't feel it when she cut me, and so again, I told her 'NO I don't want you to cut me'. Afterwards, she saw that I was fine and didn't need any stitches or anything. I really hope that I may have helped her to realize that women don't need to be cut to deliver a baby.
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